Suicidal thoughts can occur when we feel too much pain without having resources to cope, but there are other ways to stop this pain.
You may believe that suicide is the only option left. Suicidal thoughts and feelings are very real and scary and can range from abstract thoughts about ending your life to making clear specific plans.
These feelings will pass and the thoughts you have are only thoughts – they are not necessarily true.
In an emergency, speak to someone now:
Ask someone to phone 999.
Alternatively, call trained Security staff on +44 (0)1904 32 3333 (or 3333 from a University extension) or use the SafeZone app.
Samaritans: 116 123 (UK) or +44 (0)8457 909 090 (international, or if using an internal phone)
Causes of suicidal feelings
Suicidal feelings can affect anyone, whatever your background, gender, age or race. You may not be able to identify a single cause. Suicidal feelings are often caused by a combination of factors and may have built out a general feeling of worthlessness over time.
Men are more likely to die by suicide. Although the reasons for this aren’t clear, if you are a man you may feel pressure not to talk about your feelings and to cope without help.
Mind have a webpage specifically addressing the causes of suicide, including male suicide, which you may find helpful.
What can I do to help myself?
- Talk to someone you trust.
- Do something that will help you feel better right now.
- Tell yourself about the good things you have done today.
- Stop any risk taking behaviour.
- Look after yourself physically.
- Make your home safe – remove things you could use to hurt yourself.
- Do not expect to feel okay all at once.
- Remember this can happen to anybody.
- Take hope – people do get through this.
- Don’t keep these feelings to yourself.
If you cannot tell someone close to you how you feel, you can anonymously contact a confidential helpline:
- NHS Direct: 111
- Nightline: +44 (0)1904 323735, instant messaging, or drop in
- Samaritans: +44 (0)8457 909 090 or email firstname.lastname@example.org
- Papyrus: call +44 (0)8000 68 41 41, text +44 (0)7786 209697, or email Papyrus
- Befrienders Worldwide can help you find a helpline if you are out of the country
Suicide is the most difficult manner of death for those left behind to understand and cope with. It will affect parents, children, siblings, partners, friends, flat mates, tutors and even casual acquaintances. If you have been affected by suicide, Support after Suicide offers help, support, and information.
How can we help?
If you don’t feel this is an emergency but you do want help, complete the Open Door online referral form - see help and support for more information.