Bereavement

Losing someone close to you is one of the most profound experiences you may go through.

It can be a confusing time, whether the death was expected or not, and can bring a variety of conflicting emotions and physical reactions.

How can I help myself through bereavement?

  • Look after yourself, eat properly and get enough rest.
  • Seek advice if using alcohol or drugs on a regular basis.
  • Try to accept help from friends and family, who will want to help you.
  • Remember it is alright to want to have some time on your own.

Talking about the person and your feelings can be enormously helpful.

Is there a correct way to grieve?

Grieving is a unique experience and there is no right way to do it. There is no set time limit for grief; take the time you need. As time goes on you'll find you're able to focus on happier memories and adjust to life without the person.

Who can help?

If you feel that you cannot talk to family or friends then there are specialist services that can help.

Cruse Bereavement Care offers one-to-one counselling along with information and publications, and a support group where you can share concerns and feeling and exchange mutual support.

Health Assured provide 24 hours a day, 365 days a year counselling support, you can call them on 0800 028 0199. 

The Bereavement Trust is open to calls every evening from 6pm-10pm, where trained volunteers can listen and provide comfort in complete confidence, call +44 (0)800 435 455.

The Compassionate Friends offer a range of support services, including a helpline open daily 10am-4pm and 7pm-10pm +44 (0)345 123 2304.

The National Bereavement Service offers support, signposting and legal guidance following a bereavement, as well as offering guidance to anyone planning ahead in anticipation of their own death. 

Although the University of York is a secular institution, we aim to ensure all of our community can participate in the wide variety of faith groups in and around York. You may find it helpful to discuss your grief with a faith group of your choosing. 

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